“Feminism is the radical notion that women are men.”—Psychology Today
here is a an epidemic of feminist women today who demand rights without responsibility, such as former Planned Parenthood CEO Cecile Richards, who said in an interview with Newsbusters about abortion that, “If you can’t control your own body, you are not free.”
What Richards glosses over, however, is that becoming pregnant isn’t a cosmic and random thing that a women can contract, such as a virus. Rather, it is a woman’s free choice that led to the unwanted pregnancy to begin with, such as freely engaging in sexual activity with an irresponsible or unsuitable partner. It was a woman’s free choice to engage in sexual activity without any form of birth control, such as a condom or other birth control method, or without an emotional connection to a partner.
No, what feminists such as Richards endorse is allowing women to kill an unborn child in the womb because they have behaved irresponsibly and made a poor life choice. An unwanted pregnancy isn’t a result of not being able to control your own body as feminists endorse, but is a result of your inability to first control yourself. Toddlers understand this. If you behave poorly, there are consequences for your behavior in the form of timeouts or missed privileges.
Richards logic, clearly flawed, is the same as progressives having hypocritical meltdowns over the treatment of illegal immigrants who cross the border and are separated from their brown babies. How can these same women who claim to care about children also endorse the mass killing of U.S. black babies, where since 1973 abortions have taken more black lives than any other form of death.
It has been feminists such as Richards who have endorsed the idea that women should be able to have as many sexual partners as they want outside the bounds of marriage—consequences be damned. The result isn’t just the mass killing of unwanted babies through abortion, but the gutting of a cultural system that once protected women and children.
The data is clear that children raised in single-mother homes face significant physical and psychological risks and are more often than not mired in poverty. According to the National Father Initiative, studies have found that children raised without a father (one out of every three children) are:
- At a higher risk of having behavioral problems.
- Four times more likely to live in poverty.
- More likely to be incarcerated in their lifetime.
- Twice as likely to never graduate high school.
- At a seven times higher risk of teen pregnancy.
- More vulnerable to abuse and neglect.
- More likely to abuse drugs and alcohol.
- Twice as likely to be obese.
The 60 year crusade to make the nuclear family passé has resulted in a nation of angry young people who are mad at a “patriarchal” system in which they had no paternal connection with to begin with and are alienated and in lack from the outset.
According to the 2016 U.S. Census Bureau’s annual America’s Families and Living Arrangements table package, of the 11 million families with children under age 18 with no spouse present, the majority are single mothers. Twenty-three percent of all American children are living in single mother homes, or 8.5 million children!
Research data has repeatedly confirmed that children benefit when there is a mother and father in the home. And incidentally, this desire is so strong as to completely wipe out the justification that it’s better for the children if parents separate if they quarrel and are unhappy. Turns out, children don’t care about their adult parents’ happiness, they just want to live in an intact family.
The duplicity of women “choosing” and men walking away hasn’t turned out well for us. The feminists political machine that desires to pit male and females against one another while screeching about their freedom to have complete reproductive rights really just translates into selfishness. The legal right to kill an unwanted baby is a pathetic and sad argument for an advanced society, particularly when it is clearly damaging us all.
I don’t want a nation of children who don’t know their own father and believe men are the enemy of all that is holy and good. And I don’t want a nation in which feminist have children outside of marriage and crown government as daddy. It’s time for women to take responsibility and ownership for the part they have played in this cultural crises and grow up—and that starts with the individual, in real life.
Charles Murray, in his book Losing Ground, says single motherhood is so harmful and public support is so significant an inducement for unwed women to have babies that it is time to get tough. Murray has proposed denying unwed mothers child support payments from nonresident fathers. In Murray’s eyes, women are fully responsible for any children they bear in an age when contraceptives and abortion are freely available.
It’s time for young women to stop following the herd and think for themselves. To understand that finding the right mate at the crucial time in their life is important and to stop selling themselves short by engaging in meaningless sex that has—and never will—serve their best interests. Joe McIlhaney and Freda Bush, both ob-gyns, have taken the current neuroscience research and translated it into their easy to understand book Hooked. In their book, the doctors unequivocally concluded that casual sex harms the brains of women more than men and carries long-term risks to women’s physical and mental health.
Women must recognize that their role as being the sex able to bear children and raise families isn’t a powerless role, but one of the most powerful roles they can hold in society. There is no glory in raising a child alone and it hurts children and men.
If feminists really cared about women and children—and society in general—they would own up to the hypocrisy and dangerous ideologies they endorse. And they are dangerous. According to data released from Gallup and Sharecare, which included 160,000 interviews from residents of all 50 states, well being, which measures everything from mental, physical and financial health to having solid relationships and a sense of purpose in life, 21 states saw their well being drop in 2017, shattering the previous record. And no wonder. As children in single mother homes grow up, psychological problems endure.
Taking a dive into this malaise, Dan Witters, research director of the Well-Being Index found that depression levels were “the highest we have ever measured.” In 2017, nearly one in five (18 percent) of Americans said they had been professionally diagnosed at some point as being depressed. Additionally, the study showed that our quality of relationship closeness has worsened.
Clearly, the feminist movement that endorses “anything goes” provided it is consensual has not contributed to our happiness but has contributed to the unhappiness of children (male and female) who grow up to be unhappy adults. The data on single mother households has been widely available since the 1990s but is pointedly ignored by the political feminist movement. Frightening statistics, such as 70 percent of teen suicides are committed by children raised by single mothers, is white-washed in the media or not reported on at all.
Diana West, in the introduction to her book, The Death of the Grown-Up, sums up our current condition this way: “Without adults, without lines and boundaries—often confining, even constricting, but always there to cross if the singular compulsion arose—we have lost our bearings. As a result, our society has become not only sketchy and ill-defined but—and here is the more dire and political part—difficult to defend.”
Indeed, today’s young finds nothing to defend about western culture or the nuclear family and therein lies the rub. Apart from personal boundaries and responsibilities, we cannot experience fulfillment or enjoy a life of meaning.
Dr. Jordan Peterson’s unprecedented rise to YouTube and podcast fame is a direct result of hitting this nerve, particularly among young people. In our fractured culture, he is reaching young adults who are hungry to learn that personal responsibility is the key to a life worth living. And it is resounding with a generation that has been set adrift because of the appalling lack of personal responsibility among women and the death of grown-ups.
According to Peterson, in our mere humanness, we must have something that makes us get out of bed in the morning and that affords us the ability to rise above our human suffering. Traditionally, that something has been our responsibility to children and society. Boundaries, paradoxically, provide a certain security for children and adults. By knowing what you believe in and why and what your purpose in life is, you gain the understanding that breaking a rule may have dire consequences for yourself and those around you.
The political feminist movement hasn’t just damaged women, but has left a generation of men in its wake who no longer know what it means to be male in a female-dominated world. Women today dominate in the business world and in academia. Young men have been stripped of any positive and decidedly male role models and brainwashed with an ideology that paints them as sexual predators. As a consequence, many of these lost young men are attracted to violent terrorist groups such an Antifa.
With no clear path on what it means to be a man, these young men are eschewing the ballot box and being productive members of society and choosing instead to tap into their natural inclination as protectors to rise up and defend what they believe to be a worthy cause. Eventually, however, even the hippies had to grow up.
Personal fulfillment and a life worth living comes only as the fruit of a life of self-sacrifice to others, including family, friends and community. It’s time for women to stop blaming men and acting as helpless victims in society, which is what feminists promote. It is time for these so-called women to take responsibility for their choices—and that includes setting boundaries.
Being a strong, independent women isn’t following the crowd, it’s breaking away from the pack and working hard for yourself and your family and community. It’s preparing a meal for your family when you are already tired from a days work or helping your child with a school project when you really just want to shut down with a glass of wine and go to sleep. It’s staying up late when your family has gone to bed, to tidy up and ensure that, when the sun rises tomorrow, your family won’t struggle with chaos in the morning as they head out the door.
Freedom isn’t in a pink pussy hat, casual sex or blaming men. Freedom is self-sacrifice and responsibility. Reign well.